According to the statistics of Find My Kids, 30% of parents set up GPS tracking programs to their children phones without their consent. Each parent wants to know exactly where his kid is and what he is doing. And he has all rights for this. And children have the right on personal space and require trust from their parents. The best way to catch a balance of interests in the family is to explain to the kid that the program for GPS tracking on his phone is not a total control, but only a way to know that he is safe.
Find My Kids together with a kid’s psychologist have prepared several pieces of advice how to discuss with the kid the installation of a program for tracking the location and monitoring on his personal phone.
Age: 3-7 years
Your kid is still a preschool child and his development takes place in the format of the game now. Most psychologists think that interaction with mobile devices during the day should be limited and carried out under the supervision of an adult.
At this age the kid creates a «culture of communication» with the phone or tablet
Therefore, you can independently install the app Find My Kids on the device and offer the kid an introduction to the gadget. It will be quite natural for the kid and it will not cause resistance later.
Age: 7-11 years
Your kid is a primary school pupil. The tablet and computer are important components of studying, and the phone is a necessary thing to stay always connected, first of all, with you. Going to school — the first adult step for your child, this event is the best time to purchase his own mobile device or GPS-watch. All as adults have! You can independently install the applications that you find useful and informative, including the app Find My Kids. Tell your kid what applications you installed on his phone and for what.
You can use the following phrases:
This application will help us to be always connected.
I will be sure that everything is fine with you if I know where you are.
I will be able to help you if you need it.
You will always be protected, even when we (parents) are at work.
Emphasize the benefits that the kid will receive. Tell more about security, not about possible threats.
The kid listens carefully to the parents at this age, so to reach the understanding in this moment will not be difficult for you. Show the kid where to press in case of a dangerous situation.
Age: 12-14 years
At this age the kid is a «small adult». The need in making independent decisions becomes especially significant. It is important for a teenager that his opinion will be listened to and given freedom of choice. That’s why the installation of the app Find My Kids can be approached in the format of the request.
At first tell your kid that you appreciate his independence, his hobbies. Ask what new interests he has, support him. And then tell about your request to install the application and explain why it is so important for you (here the answer to the question that you asked yourself at the very beginning is so important). You can use the next phrases:
You have already achieved a lot, (you have a lot of work), (many things have changed in your life). We appreciate your achievements. You have become completely independent. Do you have new friends and interests, what are you keen on now? I trust you in what you are interested in. I am sure that you can independently make many important and well-considered decisions now.
I have one request and I really want to agree on this issue with you. You grow up and have more and more new things to do, meetings with friends, for example, and I worry when you’re not at home. So I want to ask you to install an application that will help me to know that you are safe. So it will be calmer and you will be not disturbed by my calls and messages.
Tell honestly about the opportunities that the app has, for example, that you will see where your kid is at the moment. How can you tell about this:
Let’s together limit some boundaries of the territory where you usually spend the most part of the day. Let it be a «zone of trust». If you are there, then I know that you are all right. I will receive a notification to the phone in case you go beyond. So, please, just inform me that you have occasions in another place, then I will not worry.
Tell your kid also that you will know about some settings on his phone, and you will not be worried. For example, if the kid turned on the silent mode and does not answer the phone, you can use the Signal function. So the kid will receive an loud notification and call you back.
Talk about the moment associated with recording a sound around the kid’s phone separately.
The app has the opportunity to record sounds around your device. I promise you to use this function only for your safety, so, I will be able to help you.
Try to talk about the reasons why it is important for you and for the kid. It is not necessary to emphasize the dangers that seem to «wait» for the kid everywhere. It even can cause the kid to feel that you do not trust him and treat him like a small one.
At the conclusion of the conversation add a few more words how you love your child.
I love you that’s why your safety is so important to me. I trust you and I will not control every step you take. I just want to know that everything is OK with you.
Thank your child for having heard your request.
Age: 14-17 years
Your child has already formed personal boundaries at this age. He feels self-dependent and completely independent. Phone is his personal space, so be as considerate as possible in your request.
The self-confidence usually appears at this age, a teenager starts to feel that he knows everything better than adults and that he does not need help. You need to discuss even the possibility of installing the application with your kid. He should do it himself, at the same time, if possible, independently determine all those functions that will be available on his phone. Try to start a conversation like this:
I know that you are already an adult and I respect your desire to make independent decisions in everything. We all have situations in which we need help and support. In order for both of us not to worry, I want to ask you to install the app on your phone, which will help you always stay in touch with you. Let’s discuss the capabilities of this program and together we will determine which functions we will connect. I would like to have the opportunity to know that you are in a safe place and whether I will be able to get through to you. Let’s put together on the map the places, where I know you’ll be safe.
If your kid does not agree to install the application Find My Kids from the first time, please do not insist. This will cause protest or resistance, hardly there will be a productive solution after this later. It is better to talk with the child again, when he will be tuned more positively. Emphasize that you trust him and do not control him every minute during the day.