How to Get Your 10-Year-Old Son Off the Screen Without Tears and Tantrums

Is your son glued to his phone and not noticing anything around him? Even when you call him for dinner, does it feel like your words just vanish into the air? Stay calm and read on! Getting your child off their screen is totally possible—and you can do it without drama. The key is knowing the right approach.

⚡ Why Is It Important?

Studies show that 10-year-old children who spend more than 3 hours a day on screens (outside of schoolwork) are more likely to experience:

• Issues with Sleep
• Difficulty concentrating
• Lower levels of physical activity

🧠 Why Is It So Hard to Break Away From the Screen?

When we watch something exciting or scroll through an endless social media feed, our brain goes through a powerful biochemical process. Neurotransmitters like dopamine (the hormone that controls pleasure and motivation) and serotonin (which makes us feel satisfied) are released.

Normally, these chemicals are released gradually, like when we finish a challenging task or enjoy a nice meal. But with extended screen time, the brain starts working in an unfamiliar way as dopamine and serotonin are released in larger amounts and stay for longer periods. This makes it much harder to stop watching, as the brain gets “addicted” to the constant reward.

You’ve probably experienced it yourself. Maybe you promise to watch just one episode of a show but end up glued to the screen for hours. For kids, managing this process is even harder. They’re still learning self-control, so getting them off the screen without any prep can be a real challenge.

💡 What Can You Do?

Try Negotiating

A strict ban is likely to lead to a tantrum. Instead, try talking about the rules together. For example, set a “digital curfew”—no screens after 8:00 PM.

Screen Time Break = Reward

Turn limiting screen time into a game. For instance, after each day of minimal screen use, your child earns points they can trade for something they want.

Offer Distractions

It’s tough to monitor your child’s screen time when you’re busy with work. One solution is to leave instructions with requests or ideas. For example: “Dear son, can you come up with and draw five activities you love doing in your free time?”

Remember: It’s a process, not a battle. With patience, consistency, and a little creativity, you can help your daughter build a healthier relationship with screens—without the drama.

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