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Teen Years: What Parents Should Know

Adolescence is a time of major changes and a real test for kids and their parents. How can you be there for your child instead of ending up on opposite sides?

When Does Adolescence Start?

The teenage years aren’t just about physical growth—they mark the transition from childhood to adulthood, with all the emotional and social changes that come with it.

Kids today enter adolescence earlier than previous generations—around 10–11 years old. They don’t fully transition into adulthood until much later, often closer to 18–19 years old.

Even if your child looks like an adult, true independence takes time. The main goal of this period is for teenagers to figure out who they are, where they fit in the world, and how to become independent from their parents.

Adolescence can be divided into two key stages:

  • Early Adolescence (10–12 years old). Kids start to feel grown up, but their emotions are unpredictable, changing like the weather. Their reactions can be difficult to anticipate.
  • Late Adolescence (13–18/19 years old). Hormonal changes peak, and teens begin their transition to emotional and psychological maturity.

During this time, teenagers may become irritable, withdrawn, or even aggressive. Without realizing it, they often rebel. It’s all part of the process, and parental patience is essential

What’s Happening to Your Teen

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  • Rapid growth and physical changes. These transformations are natural, but they don’t always feel comfortable. It’s common for teens to feel self-conscious and insecure about their appearance.
  • Uncertainty. They crave independence but may doubt their own abilities and fear losing their family’s support.
  • Mood swings. Hormones do their thing—one moment, a teen is excited, the next, completely indifferent. Sometimes, it’s both at the same time.
  • Shifting role models. Teens start questioning traditional authority figures (parents, teachers) and looking for new ones.
  • Finding their identity. They become more aware of their individuality and want to stand out. They seek their place among peers, sometimes dealing with bullying, friendship drama, and their first serious relationships.

Instead of feeling supported by their parents, teens often experience excessive control and criticism. Don’t fall into that trap!

How to Help Your Teen Navigate Adolescence

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  • Support and explain. Help your teen understand and accept bodily changes.
  • Talk about their worries. If your son or daughter is struggling with school or friendships, don’t dismiss concerns, no matter how minor they seem.
  • Have open conversations. Regularly discuss critical topics like relationships, sex, alcohol, and drugs.
  • Avoid comparisons. This only makes teens feel misunderstood.
  • Build a trusting environment. Encourage open communication so your teen knows you will always be there to provide help and support
  • Give them freedom while teaching responsibility. Let your teen make decisions while being aware of the consequences.

Most importantly, listen. Demonstrate to your teen that he or she can come to you with any question or problem. This provides a safe and secure emotional space for your ever-evolving teen.

References:

  1. How to be a good parent to teenagers—the expert’s guide.The Times
  2. How Tweens, Preteens, and Teens Differ: A Parent’s Guide. Parents.com
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