How to negotiate with the kid about tracking his location?
- Age: 3-7 years
- Age: 7-11 years
- Age: 12-14 years
- Age: 14-17 years
- Lifehacks for parents
Before you start talking with your kid about installing the app Find My Kids on his phone, first sincerely answer for yourself on one question: what problem will be solved for you by this app?
Probably, you want to know that your kid is safe or this app will help to protect the kid from possible threats. You can come to the rescue, if your kid needs it, so you can always be near. Be honest with the kid, your anxiety is a sign of your love and the kid will feel it.
Age: 3-7 years
Your kid is still a preschooler and his development takes place in the format of the game. Most psychologists think that interaction with mobile devices during the day should be limited and carried out under the supervision of an adult.
At this age, the kid creates a «culture of communication» with the phone or tablet.
Therefore, you can independently install the Find My Kids app on the device and offer the kid an introduction to the gadget. It will be quite natural for the kid and it will not cause resistance later.
Age: 7-11 years
Your kid is a primary school pupil. The tablet and computer are important components of studying, and the phone is a necessary thing to stay always connected, first of all, with you.
Going to school – the first adult step for your child. This event is the best time to purchase his own mobile device or GPS-watch.
You can independently install the applications that you find useful and informative, including the Find My Kids app. Tell your kid what applications you installed on his phone and for what.
You can use the following phrases:
«This application will help us to be always connected».
«I will be sure that everything is fine with you if I know where you are».
«I will be able to help you if you need it».
«You will always be protected, even when we (parents) are at work».
Emphasize the benefits that the kid will receive. Tell more about security, not about possible threats.
The kid listens carefully to the parents at this age, so to reach the understanding at this moment will not be difficult for you. Show the kid where to press in case of a dangerous situation.
Age: 12-14 years
At this age, the kid is a «small adult». The need for making independent decisions becomes especially significant. It is important for a teenager that his opinion will be listened to and given freedom of choice. That’s why the installation of the app Find My Kids can be approached in the format of the request.
At first tell your kid that you appreciate his independence, his hobbies. Ask what new interests he has, try to support him. And then tell about your request to install the application and explain why it is so important for you (here the answer to the question that you asked yourself at the very beginning comes into play). You can use the next phrases:
«You have already achieved a lot (you have a lot of work/many things have changed in your life). We appreciate your achievements. You have become completely independent. Do you have new friends and interests, what are you keen on now? I trust you in what you are interested in. I am sure that you can independently make many important and well-considered decisions now.
I have one request and I really want to agree on this issue with you. You grow up and have more and more new things to do, meetings with friends, for example, and I worry when you’re not at home. So I want to ask you to install an application that will help me to know that you are safe. So I will be calmer and you will be not disturbed by my calls and messages».
Tell honestly about the opportunities that the app has, for example, that you will see where your kid is at the moment. How can you tell about this:
«Let’s together limit some boundaries of the territory where you usually spend the most part of the day. Let it be a «zone of trust». If you are there, then I know that you are all right. I will receive a notification to the phone in case you go beyond. So, please, just inform me that you have occasions in another place, then I will not worry».
Tell your kid also that you will know about some settings on his phone, and you will not be worried. For example, if the kid turned on the silent mode and does not answer the phone, you can use the Signal function. So the kid will receive a loud notification and call you back.
Talk about the moment associated with recording a sound around the kid’s phone separately.
«The app has the opportunity to record sounds around your device. I promise you to use this function only for your safety, so, I will be able to help you».
Try to talk about the reasons why it is important for you and for the kid. It is not necessary to emphasize the dangers that seem to «wait» for the kid everywhere. It even can cause the kid to feel that you do not trust him and treat him like a small one.
At the conclusion of the conversation add a few more words on how you love your child.
«I love you that’s why your safety is so important to me. I trust you and I will not control every step you take. I just want to know that everything is OK with you».
Thank your child for having heard your request.
Age: 14-17 years
Your child has already formed personal boundaries at this age. He feels self-dependent and completely independent. The phone is his personal space, so be as considerate as possible in your request.
The self-confidence usually appears at this age, a teenager starts to feel that he knows everything better than adults and that he does not need help. You need to discuss even the possibility of installing the application with your kid. He should do it himself, at the same time, if possible, independently determine all those functions that will be available on his phone. Try to start a conversation like this:
«I know that you are already an adult and I respect your desire to make independent decisions in everything. We all have situations in which we need help and support. In order for both of us not to worry, I want to ask you to install the app on your phone, which will help me always stay in touch with you. Let’s discuss the capabilities of this program and together we will determine which functions we will connect. I would like to have the opportunity to know that you are in a safe place and whether I will be able to get through to you. Let’s put together on the map the places, where I know you’ll be safe».
Lifehacks for parents
A simple way to persuade a child to install a parental control app is to offer them a benefit.
Tell your child about the benefits that the Find My Kids service will bring and about the problems that the app is able to solve with minimal effort and consequences.
1. Losing their phone
This is important for parents whose children already use smartphones — they go to school with them, take them everywhere. Probably, when buying the gadget, you warned the child that this expensive thing should be taken care of. Most children are really afraid of losing their favorite “toy” – not so much because of the cost of the phone, but for fear of their parents’ reaction: shouting, punishments and being given afterwards nothing but a cheap button phone.
The Find My Kids app makes it easy to find your smartphone by pinpointing its location on the map.
You can tell your child something like this: «The app will help us find your phone if you lose it or leave it somewhere. We will not scold you and punish you for your inattentiveness, but will try to solve the problem quickly together».
2. More free time and space
The main advantage of our app for parents is that it allows them to find the child’s location without having to call or text them. To make this need clear to the child, you need to present the tracking and listening function in a clear and effective way.
«If we install this app, I will be able to allow you to walk longer and stay with your friends. I will stop bothering you with calls because I will know that you are safe».
3. Co-configuration of functions
LIVE-listening is the main stumbling block in parents’ attempts to negotiate with their children about installing the app. If the child is categorically against this function, do not insist. It is better to ask them to turn off the listening function in the settings together with you and return to this conversation after the child gets used to the presence of the control app, or until you find a strong enough argument in favor of listening.
Agree that this function can be ignored so that the child agrees to install this kind of program or stops deleting it from his device.
«If you are afraid that I will listen to you, let’s ban this feature in the settings together. This way you can be sure that no one will overhear what you are doing, and I will be calm because I will be able to see where you are if necessary. I won’t use the features that you don’t like. We will discuss and configure everything together with you».
If your kid does not agree to install the application Find My Kids from the first time, please do not insist. This will cause protest or resistance, hardly there will be a productive solution after this later. It is better to talk with the child again, when he will be tuned more positively. Emphasize that you trust him and do not control him every minute during the day.